Leary thinks that similar reasoning may even explain why we blush when we know people are looking at us such as when we speak up in a meeting , or even when we are praised; the reddening face is a way of showing that we want to avoid the unwanted attention. Embarrassment may even be taken as a sign that you are a more altruis tic person. While at the University of California, Berkeley, Matthew Feinberg filmed people recalling a mishap from their past, and a panel then judged them on how embarrassed they appeared.
It turned out that the more easily flustered they were, the more they reported altruistic views in a subsequent survey. They were also more likely to play honestly in a game with a cash prize. Demonstrating discomfort can make you seem kinder and more likeable Credit: iStock. Amazingly, red-faced awkwardness may boost your sex appeal when faced with someone you fancy. The only thing worse than feeling embarrassed may be to never feel it at all.
In Depth Psychology. The surprising perks of being easily embarrassed. Share using Email. By David Robson 7th January Pardon my cursing. These global norms are incredibly dated and in no way represent culture today. While these guidelines do affect females as well, I am a man, and therefore wouldn't be the correct person to address that side of things.
So I won't. Below, I'm going to give you a little bit of male insight by addressing eight things that men are embarrassed to admit to you, but shouldn't be. All men are insecure, no matter how tall they stand. Like women, men are human beings, and we too are bombarded with Photoshopped images of picture-perfect bodies and idyllic faces that we can in no way live up to.
I wrongly measure my own aesthetic worth by comparing myself to others whenever I'm out in a bathing suit, and instead of taking note that my body may be considered better than some, I instead compare myself to those in superior shape, and I feel terrible about it. I hate my body, and I know I'm not alone. Guys just don't talk about it because we aren't "supposed" to. We're instead supposed to be strong and confident in ourselves and project this fabled belief as a sign of manliness.
A guy admitting he's in love is viewed as a sign of weakness. Not by you, but by guys in general. It shows that he's let his guard down and he cares about something — it's good news! But men tend to see this as a sign that he's "going soft. In turn, we'd rather wait for you to say those three special words first so we don't seem "weak" or give the impression that we love you more than you love us because women are the emotional and nurturing ones, according to norms.
Yes, it's childish but that's the way this archetypal cookie crumbles. As detailed by nearly every male character portrayed in movies and television but this has just recently begun to change, thankfully , not every man wants sex every time it's available to him.
I myself probably turn down sex more than my own partner, who's absolutely gorgeous. For the same reasons she does! I'm tired, I'm not feeling sexy, I'm lazy, I'd rather do something else, you name it! Here's a case in point. The hair pieces that some fellas purchase to cover their baldness are usually far more alarming than the receding hairline they're covering.
Embarrassment can twist a mind in such a way that it suddenly makes sense to place roadkill on one's scalp. Oh well, at least that poor sap's head is warm. This one is just not fair. You work hard, sweating and toiling in the sun, and what do you have to show for it? A farmer's tan. A farmer's tan comes in many variations. There's the stark contrast between the brown of the forearm and the pasty paleness of the bicep.
There's the farmer's tan of the legs, which leaves the eternal impression that you're wearing white socks. There's the farmer's tan of the neck, around your collar line, and even of the head should you happen to pair a ball cap with an aforementioned chrome dome. Unfortunately, you can't wear that cap all the time.
Yes, a farmer's tan can leave a colorfully negative impression on the viewing public, but it really shouldn't. What it should say is, "I work hard for the money, so you better treat me right.
If a farmer's tan is truly embarrassing, the word hasn't gotten out to brewers, musicians and filmmakers. Yup, there's a farmer's tan movie, a farmer's tan band and a beer named after the multi-hued skin condition. It's the world's oldest question. No, not "to be or not to be," but "does size matter? A guy who didn't get a true education about sex from his parents or teachers -- locker room jokes don't replace real knowledge -- usually comes to the conclusion that the size of his penis matters a great deal and he, pun intended, comes up short.
Nothing is more embarrassing for a guy than the false knowledge that he's inadequate in any sexual way. Truth is, an extremely large unit will cause undue pain to your partner and prevent you from experiencing the pleasure of being able to plunge completely into the experience. Pun, um, still intended. Even a guy who is quite below average in the length department less than 4. Again we venture into the bigger-is-better department.
Some guys are overly concerned about their height. Maybe it comes from the playground, from desperately trying to shoot a basketball over the outstretched arms of a taller opponent or from looking up into the disinterested eyes of a slow-dance partner way back in middle school.
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